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 This paper represents years of research into the effects of the trauma of the child and adult health and well being. Minimize

Fascinating Journey Into Healing With The Mind


My original training to begin this fascinating journey into healing with the mind came in 1999. I was trained as a hypnotherapist. I learned that in childhood, we are in a constant state of hypnosis, and that the foundation for our subconscious life was being laid at this time. Repeated suggestions form important patterns in the mind. Many can be happy and useful, but sadly, trauma can be part of the equation, and can leave children with the need to flee from hurt, despair and confusion. Part of the hypnosis training included the possibility of the client regressing into childhood during hypnosis for their issue. Much later, I trained in techniques for regression into childhood, and even past life regression. However, I shunned this area, as I felt we had enough to deal with in this life. I even felt that some hypnotherapists used past life regression to flatter the client with grandiose past lives, far more glamorous that their current mundane existence.


As I studied NMT, the PAET form started my journey of understanding of the connection between the trauma of childhood, and the ill and uneasy adult. The form created an opportunity to fully explore the emotional connection between the body malfunction of the client and the NMT pathways needed. I found that many pathways called for exploration of the childhood of the client.

I realized that the client as an adult was still acting out and calling for help from the mind of the child and that their childhood trauma was being relived on an unconscious basis. The trauma was still within the mind, and the mind created dis-ease in the body as a call for help, and to point out the need to resolve these traumas.  Almost inevitably the dis-ease was harking back to the childhood and the hurts felt.

The effects can be far reaching and played out in the unconscious mind in many ways. My clients taught me to see this through the healing process. The following examples will clarify my assertions.

How My Clients Taught Me To See The Trauma Of The Child

Mary was a new client with an anaphylactic shock reaction to the fumes in airports. She came to me for help because she had an upcoming flight back to her native France. She had become quite ill from the drugs she needed to manage the reaction after a previous flight, and had spent days of her time in France trying to recover, and dreaded her return trip home. While running the Allergic Response Pathway, I found that an issue of parental abandonment was one significant factor to her reaction. After the abandonment, she was left with her aunt and uncle for an extended period of time at a tender age. She believed that her male cousin was abusive toward her, and that the family did not want her in their home. Further testing revealed that she was burned at 18 months old by a malfunctioning gas jet while in this rather uncaring environment, and had never truly recovered. The gas jet caused the reaction to the airport fumes. After four sessions, with trip to the airport in between the 3rd and 4th visit, she was able to fly to France, and sent me a postcard telling me about her wonderful vacation. Mary said the trip on the plane had been comfortable, with the exception of a slight reaction to the wine she decided to indulge in since she was free of the usual drugs!

Susan is a long-term client. We have explored many avenues, with success, and Susan was determined to discover the difficulties that were holding her back from rising to the top in the film industry. She felt she could not live up to her father’s expectations (in a similar line of work). Together, we found that at age 8, the teacher made Susan stand on the desk in school. The teacher then proceeded to point out to the class that her slip was hanging out from underneath her skirt. Susan was used as an example of how not to wear a slip. Of course, this was excruciatingly emotionally painful to a child so young. We found that the link to the present day and the fear of success was the public humiliation, and the public nature of the movie business. In her work as the production manager and designer of movie sets, Susan was exposing herself to public scrutiny, or “standing on the desk” of the movie business.

Adele, in her late 50s, came to me because of her deep depression, moodiness, and sense of despair and pointlessness in her life. She was dragging herself through her work as a chief financial officer and spending most of the weekend in bed. She felt no empathy for others, and felt disconnected from herself. In our initial discussion, I found that at age five she had been run over by a school bus, and had suffered injuries to the body. The callous treatment by the adults in her life caused far greater injury to the ACS. This created IF/h that compounded until her ACS sagged under the weight of the unjust accusations. Her mother blamed her for being careless when exiting the bus, and did not support her daughter. The bus driver had been very upset and vomited and fainted. The principal of the school sent her a letter while she was in hospital telling her that because of her carelessness, the school had lost the Elmer the Safety Elephant flag.  No one seemed to understand that the child needed to rely on the adults around her for safety. This lack of compassion toward Adele seemed to compound through out her life, cumulating in the debilitating depression and disconnection. Coming to terms with this accident, resolving the IF/h and applying a variety of pathways have been a definite help to Adele. She is now more engaged in life and has improved relationships. This new positive attitude keeps her out of bed on the weekend, and energizes her at work.

Dawn is a young woman in her early twenties. She had a raging infection in her jaw, lungs, eyes and saliva glands; one that has plagued her for an extended period. The diagnosis of Sjogren’s was a long time in coming, and the emotional link to the infection was caused by her mother’s death. The doctors’ simply could not help her; they only prescribed drugs to keep the extreme flare-ups under control. Her energy was very low and she was no longer able to work. Dawn shared with me that she felt she has lost her father’s love for her at age two, when her sister was born. As we worked on her infection in one session, the IF/h processing around her father caused a sharp and almost unbearable pain in her heart. I asked that she focus on the pain and breathe the pain out as we disorganized the IF/h. To my relief, the pain abated. Dawn was quite taken back by the strong reaction. She started to connect her illness and her lack of ability to form meaningful relationships with men to this residual mental pain caused by the abandonment of her father. At present, Dawn is still overcoming her eye problems, however, the major infection is gone. She has been leading her family’s reconciliation with her father, stepmother and her new brother. 

In our last session, Dawn relayed a terrible incident that occurred in her childhood at around age seven, in her former home in China. Her mother had brought her to the doctor to treat a sty in Dawn’s eye. The doctor employed a senior man to hold Dawn still while he operated without anesthetic. Dawn was terrified and confused, not able to understand why her mother would allow this to happen to her. She had bruises on her body from being held down. This trauma was related to her continued eye infection. Now Dawn has made great strides with the condition of her eyes and is better able to perform at work since this session.

12 sessions later, Dawn’s health is much better and she is able to relate the emotions of her childhood to her difficulties of today. Dawn has also realized she is dissatisfied with her profession and is looking to change her career path towards teaching medical yoga, with our sessions supporting her along the way. 

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